When a four years old boy is bullied by a fat friend, he usually cries, and says, "I want to go home. You big bully! I will tell my dad about it!"
When a youth is playing with his friends in the field, and it begins to rain. He tells his friends: "Hey guys, let's go home! It is raining!"
When a student is studying in foreign country, and the holidays are near. He tells his friends: "Hooray! I can go back home after exams!"
When a father is working so hard overseas, and after working, he says to himself: "How is my family? My wife? My children? I miss my home very much."
A home is a realm, not a location. A home is sphere, not necessarily family.
Home is where we have peace and rest. After laboring in working or studying outside, we wish to find a place, a surrounding, a group of people, where we can have real rest for a better tomorrow; that's our home. If our home is not filled with peace, but instead, wars, disputes, conflicts, there is no rest. That is not home in reality.
Home is where we can be ourselves. We are not afraid to say what we think. We can behave like what we are. If we have to hide, we have to practice double standards, we have to be another "me" at home, that is not home in reality.
Home is where, one does not demand each others, yet each one knows his own responsibility. Everyone fulfill their own obligations, and everyone cares for each others. If there is one, who is not responsible for the others, then there exist imbalance. If there is one, who requires other to do something according to his/her own standard, then there is restriction, there is pressure. This makes the demanded person being not in peace, if the requirement is not reached.
Home is where, those members are not selfish, but all of them know to labor for the family willingly. None of them take advantage of others, but each of them give and take appropriately.
Home is where, each member know their own position soberly. None of them despise themselves, or regard themselves too highly. None of them is too afraid to voice, and none of them is the dictator.
Do you have a home?
